My mom and I dead lift together for this reason.
That’s heartwarming to see. Remember it’s never too late to start with physical fitness.
Most physical issues can at least be lessened if not completely fixed with the most basic resistance training.women being discouraged from any strength training leads to countless issues later
God forbid women ever look at weights too intensely or gasps even pick up a dumbbell. She’ll turn into Arnold Schwarzenegger right away.
(Hopefully dripping with enough sarcasm)
God, I could only hope
I talked to some friends and they told me so much about back issues because of chest weight, and I started putting two and two together as to why women usually don’t run regularly and things like that and I gained even more respect for when they do.
It’s so cool to see women entering men’s spaces and being undeniably good at it.
Yet when men enter women’s spaces it’s notably less cool.
Source: I’m a man who enjoys stitchcraft and beading.
Unfortunately, I hope at some point this just becomes normal.
It will never be normalized as long as the typical reaction involves the kind of vitriol I’ve faced for it…
or men too. remember the grandma that overpowered a robber in the states.
Or earlier, even - in Asia the pressure to be waife-like is even stronger than in the west. My ex complains about back pain at 24. When I tried to encourage her to get out and exercise I just ended up sounding like her mother, so that didn’t help :-/
At my gym there is like 50% women some days, so at least there, they are not discouraged. The guys are not paying attention to them either, even if some women really wants them to. :)
As a proper no-lifing gym bro i can attest that there most definitely are women in the gym as well, yeah probably close to 50:50 distribution. So hopefully yeah the discourment is either dying out or at least being ignored more.
You should have those women get together with the women who say “any guy who talks to a woman at the gym is a creep,” and have them reach a consensus instead of giving men this constant mixed messaging that “You’re an asshole if you talk to women, but actually a few of these women secretly want you to talk to them and you’re not a real man if you don’t. Just don’t guess wrong about which is which.”
It’s like playing minesweeper, except you don’t get any hints.
Well you can’t let women control what you do. Some women will think you are a creep, others will like being talked to since they like the social aspect of it.
So you just talk to them and if you feel like they don’t want to, you simply leave them alone. That’s a fine behavior.
You can read a lot from body language as well. And if you talk to many women just for practice, it won’t feel so strange or unusual to do it.
That’s funny. A woman thinking I’m a creep means she’ll tell all her friends that I’m a creep. Which means they’ll tell all their friends, and so on, until I can’t show my face in public without half the people who see me going “That’s the creep, stay away from him.” Even people I don’t know.
So no, risking that just to potentially talk to someone who enjoys the social aspect of human interactions is not worth it.
So you just talk to them and if you feel like they don’t want to, you simply leave them alone.
Except they don’t always make it clear when they don’t want to talk. They might just silently resent you while being polite to your face, and then slander you to all their friends as soon as you’re done talking.
That’s part of the problem with the “Women aren’t required to give you an overt rejection” mentality that I hear so much. And then they act like they’re not expecting me to be a mind reader when they say “You shouldn’t talk to women who don’t want to talk to you; it’s not their responsibility to tell you that they don’t want to talk, but it’s your responsibility to know.” Feels like gaslighting.
You can read a lot from body language as well.
Nope, I’m on the spectrum, and I don’t pick up on hints. Even if I get the idea that someone might be trying to drop a hint, I won’t know what it means and I’ll overthink it. It may mean “Wow, this guy is so cool, I hope he asks me out,” or it could mean “Wow, this guy is such a creep, when will he stop talking to me?”
It can be really hard to tell, especially when they’re trying to be nonchalant or subtle. Especially when I don’t really intuit typical social conventions that other people seem to.
And if you talk to many women just for practice, it won’t feel so strange or unusual to do it.
Nah, once I gain a reputation for “That guy talks to every woman in the place!” Then they’ll double calling me a creep and avoiding me. It’s not really the type of thing where “just get some practice and you’ll improve.”
I say all this from experience.
If you are on the spectrum, it’s of course very different. Just ordinary social interactions will be difficult, with anyone. So much of people’s communication is through body language.
Yeah well at this point in life I’ve gotten so sick and tired of being called a creep for not magically picking up on social cues, so it’s better for my mental health if I just don’t talk to women.
Maybe it’s not a societal problem after all, I’m just uniquely inadequate in a very personal failing kind of way. Cause that’s so much easier to cope with…
It’s kinda bitter thinking about all the neurotypicals out there who get to live happy lives, even the complete jerks, just because they know how to be “normal” and that’s less off-putting than being a socially awkward weirdo like me. But whatever.
I try not to think about it too much. The FOMO kinda died out towards the end of my 20s, now I’m kind of just resigned to my fate that I’m gonna die alone. I’ve been a total hikikomori for the past year or so at this point. It’s more peaceful at least than dealing with people…
I was at the gym the other week and this trio of tiny elderly ladies who all were well under 5 ft in stature and were dressed like grannies were walking around looking at all the equipment clearly trying to figure it out and occasionally taking turns giving it a try. I was trying so hard not to be rude and stare but they were so adorable and it made my day watching them
No one going to mention the Granny kinda casually lifting over 100kg?
I was thinking the same thing but the red plates read 2.5kg. not sure what the others are but I’m assuming 22kg in total? Still very amazing considering my mother, who is 20 years this woman’s junior, couldn’t do this.
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way to go grammaw
I really need to figure out how to get my dad to start doing this…
Preparing for an invasion.
Mainland chinese grandmas workout too. It’s gonna be one hell of a battle.
GRANDMA VS GRANDMA! FIGHT!
And yet Taiwan has welcomed McDonalds, Burger King, Domino’s, Krispy Kreme…
Even the world’s healthiest countries have. It’s like with cigarettes. Everyone knows it’s harmful garbage, but if it’s not available people will protest.
