I must admit, I would not decide to have kids without working from home. What is even the point in bringing them to this world if their parents are gonna just park them at care centers for most of the time?
As a historical side note, the idea that children grow up and are raised exclusively by their biological parents is extremely recent and basically a British/Germanic cultural export.
Most cultures raised their kids communally. Some people are responsible for raising the kids, and the kids spend all day with them. After some time the kids develop interests and start learning from other grownups that do that “work”. Sometimes it’s their biological family, sometimes it isn’t.
And that makes much more sense tbh. Most parents in modern nuclear families are terrible at raising kids. And they aren’t even doing JUST that. They have to juggle their own lives, their work, keeping a house clean (because due to the British/germanic nuclear family we all need to live in our own “tiny estates” isolated from other people), AND raising kids.
We should have the people who love kids the most and who teach them the best raise them, imo.
To afford two kids I work two jobs and my wife works one. And grandparents don’t want to help, citing that “they did their share of caring for kids already in life”. So here we are - two people, two kids, constant stress and overworking just to make ends meet.
Yeah, I had my first before COVID, and then COVID happened, and I’ve turned away a lot simply because it cuts into time with my kids. I walk them to school every day, so I can’t leave my house til 845-9am earliest, but that doesn’t stop me from covering remote work that starts normally at 10. And I stop by 330 or so every day and go get my kids. If I was somewhere else, I’d be stopping at 230, and I do so with absolutely zero remorse, don’t care if we’re done or not. Kids are my number one priority, they won’t be this age forever, and I intend to maximize my time with them.
Working from home.
I must admit, I would not decide to have kids without working from home. What is even the point in bringing them to this world if their parents are gonna just park them at care centers for most of the time?
As a historical side note, the idea that children grow up and are raised exclusively by their biological parents is extremely recent and basically a British/Germanic cultural export.
Most cultures raised their kids communally. Some people are responsible for raising the kids, and the kids spend all day with them. After some time the kids develop interests and start learning from other grownups that do that “work”. Sometimes it’s their biological family, sometimes it isn’t.
And that makes much more sense tbh. Most parents in modern nuclear families are terrible at raising kids. And they aren’t even doing JUST that. They have to juggle their own lives, their work, keeping a house clean (because due to the British/germanic nuclear family we all need to live in our own “tiny estates” isolated from other people), AND raising kids.
We should have the people who love kids the most and who teach them the best raise them, imo.
Nothing new to me.
To afford two kids I work two jobs and my wife works one. And grandparents don’t want to help, citing that “they did their share of caring for kids already in life”. So here we are - two people, two kids, constant stress and overworking just to make ends meet.
Yeah, I had my first before COVID, and then COVID happened, and I’ve turned away a lot simply because it cuts into time with my kids. I walk them to school every day, so I can’t leave my house til 845-9am earliest, but that doesn’t stop me from covering remote work that starts normally at 10. And I stop by 330 or so every day and go get my kids. If I was somewhere else, I’d be stopping at 230, and I do so with absolutely zero remorse, don’t care if we’re done or not. Kids are my number one priority, they won’t be this age forever, and I intend to maximize my time with them.