Yeah totally, it’s just wrong to say it’s not the majority of them.

My home stuff is like this

No, it’s advertising.

I don’t want it for me. It doesn’t have it.

You want it for you, you have other options.

Because it encourages gamification, advertising, malware, and illegal content.

If you want links, use the link sharing forums.

I don’t want the content to be outside the app, I want the content to be the photos people post.

I don’t know what mechanism they use, but I have a hunch that if you allowlist one user from an instance, the instance owner could potentially see the stuff. Not just your own instance owner.

Why does the fediverse not have a privacy control to limit who can see and interact with your posts?

Because of the way the protocol works.

There is no way to accomplish this is a publicly federated network without trusting the portals people use and/or creating some sort of public key exchange on friend requests.

This results in privacy breaches being as simple as compromising one node, or writing some code to make a node hostile.

The key idea would be basically when you friend/follow someone you send them your public key, they keep a list of keys and encode/individually send followed messages to people. Very onerous.