But what about defederation from malicious/insecure instances? Couldn’t this solve these kind of problems?

Of course, there will still be a risk. But isn’t it a step in the better direction?

But thats a problem with dating-networks in general because of the intimate character. I think if you want to do it, then it should be done in a safer way than tinder. And the security of your instance should be checked today already. The federation could be a safety advantage, because you can choose on your own, where you think it’s the safest.

Cool, didn’t know that one. Maybe it’s a good first step. Since it’s open source, people can work with it and develope it further.

This could be a symptom of being corporate-driven. They suggest you incompatible people, because they want you to pay (to get better results). I assume you only tried the free version. I never tried the paid one.

I think this problem could be solved.

People are used to seperate apps for dating I guess. And the matching-concept like on tinder is nice as well if there wouldn’t be a big profit-oriented company behind it. It could be a tinder with equal chances for everybody. At least it would be driven with an algorithm, which doesn’t have profit as a goal.