‘Toy’ feels strange to me here. It’s more of a just-works vs power-tool distinction. Sometimes people like tools that require you to RTFM because the deeper understanding has concrete benefits; it’s not just fun. User-friendliness is not all upside, it is still a tradeoff.
You’re absolutely right about hurting new users by not making the destinction, whatever label is used.
Sure, because the persecution of black people in the US is at all equivalent to the bullying of anime nerds, right.
The problem is not that thin-skinned people could do mental gymnastics to find reasons to be upset, it’s that ‘coon’ is straight up a racial slur that was historically a major tool of oppression.