If you routinely “get heated” at work, the best-case scenario is that you’re part of a tight-knit team of confident people who aren’t put off by it. No harm, no foul. But the second someone comes onto your team who’s not so confident, or you have to communicate outside of your team, it becomes a big problem. It’s a bad way to treat your colleagues — even undirected or casual anger intimidates and alienates the people around you — and it makes you a less effective engineer.
In my previous job, if I was angry, it wasn’t at my colleagues. It was at upper management. My colleagues were in the trenches with me. We suffered together. Being angry at work isn’t bad in itself, imo. I did use that anger as motivation to get another job. I felt incredibly lucky to do so, however.
Nah, it’s okay to be angry. It’s not okay to express that anger as hostility.
I don’t regret the times I show anger at work, but it’s a definitely a fine line that can leave me feeling a bit uneasy afterwards. It’s one of the “social capital” things; you need to earn enough good will to spend your anger on the battles that really matter to you.
This is valid not only for engineers. Possibly for all work situations.
A lesson I too had to learn the hard way.OTOH expressing anger in your life must be possible. Maybe it’s possible to do that constructively.
I used to care more about work. But this job pays garbage and is frothing over AI, so fuck them.
tell this to my fucking manager LMAO
Flips table
Yeah there’s no need to get angry. It’s just a job. If it doesn’t work without anger you can always get another one (or probably most people here can anyway).
I’ll just go down to the job tree.
I mean if you’re a decent programmer, totally! AI hasn’t destroyed the job market quite yet. But I wouldn’t wait too long…
