• lightnsfw@reddthat.com
    3·
    4 months ago

    Can you all really not acknowledge other people’s hotness to your partner? As long as you don’t try fucking them what’s the issue? If they don’t trust you why even be together?

    • jtrek@startrek.website
      4·
      4 months ago

      There’s a few strands of toxic monogamy that are pretty common. Really jealous, controlling, and with poor emotional regulation.

      I’m lucky my current partner is very chill about these things. I’m still good friends with two previous partners and it’s never been an issue. We’ve all hung out together.

      • Buddahriffic@lemmy.world
        2·
        4 months ago

        Some people even want their partners to get jealous and controlling and think they don’t really love them if they don’t.

    • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
      1·
      4 months ago

      I’m in an open marriage with a slightly bi woman, and these boomer-tier memes are always so funny to me. We look at women together, and when she asks if I want to sleep with them it feels more like coaxing than a trap.

      • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
        1·
        4 months ago

        I’m monogamous but it doesn’t mean we can’t appreciate looking at hot people. How conceited would you have to be to think you’re better looking than everyone else your partner sees.

        • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
          1·
          4 months ago

          Not really? As lightnsfw said, even if you’re monogamous you should be able to notice attractive people without it turning into a fight.

          • Ann Archy@lemmy.world
            0·
            4 months ago

            And yet here we are. The joke wouldn’t work if literally every man couldn’t recognize this situation. Or are they all just mass deluded and you alone have seen the light? Just… Stop.

            • Sidhean@piefed.socialEnglish
              1·
              4 months ago

              the joke wouldn’t work

              It doesn’t! That explains it-- literally every man must not recognize this situation :)

            • Micromot@piefed.socialEnglish
              1·
              4 months ago

              I know this situation only from people in unhealthy relationships. Repressed emotions like this can lead to cheating or mistrust

        • Buddahriffic@lemmy.world
          1·
          4 months ago

          Appeal to majority? I’ve never found the argument that “most people think this way” to be very compelling.

    • velma@sh.itjust.works
      1·
      4 months ago

      Yes! And not just acknowledge hotness, but sometimes more depending on the couple. My husband and I not only acknowledge other people’s hotness - we will fuck them given the opportunity.

      Every person is different and every relationship is different.

      • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
        1·
        4 months ago

        I can see how my comment came off as disparaging people in open relationships. I didn’t intend that. I was just directing it at those who are jealous, presumably because they’re worried about their partner being interested in other people.

        • velma@sh.itjust.works
          1·
          4 months ago

          Oh I wasn’t offended! I was agreeing and adding on with my own experience lol. I’m sorry if I came off too blunt!

          I edited it to show that I agreed with you.

      • Phoenixz@lemmy.ca
        1·
        4 months ago

        Same here. We allow each other to fuck others when given the chance. I can’t wait for her stories

    • CustardFist@feddit.nlOPEnglish
      2·
      1 month ago

      I saw that thread blow up and I 'nope’d out of there as fast as my proverbial legs could carry me. 🫷😎

  • mojofrododojo@lemmy.worldEnglish
    1·
    4 months ago

    at one point in our late 20s my wife worked with a woman who wore the same dresses and had the same hair length from behind and I walked up behind her, thinking it was my wife (it was my wife’s cube/desk) and wrapped her in a big hug then, smelling the different perfume, realized my mistake.

    Realized I fuuuuucked up, apologized and they both laughed (wife was on the other side of the room).

    I have heard about this incident 2-3 times a year since it happened and doubt my wife will ever let it go lol.

  • 5too@lemmy.worldEnglish
    1·
    4 months ago

    Yeesh, so many people grumbling about poor relationship dynamics. The whole joke is that it was all in his head - she teased him a little, and he put himself into a tailspin by losing an imaginary argument.

    I’ve done that kind of thing a few times myself - my wife says something innocuous, and I read into it until I’ve gone completely off the rails. Has nothing to do with anything she’s done, it’s all to do with me misreading what’s happening and forecasting wrong without checking anything. That’s the joke.

    • Zensate@lemmy.world
      2·
      2 months ago

      Based on her smile, you think the artist wanted us to think that the joke was in his head?

      • 5too@lemmy.worldEnglish
        1·
        1 month ago

        Nah, she was having fun poking at him, I think he just ran a lot farther with it than she intended!

  • yermaw@sh.itjust.works
    1·
    4 months ago

    Bro fucked up. Now shes mad at you for 2 things. Should have taken the argument then went to the sofa.